stillbirth

Pregnancy After a Loss: A Guide to Pregnancy After a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death
$15.95
I was so incredibly grateful to have this during my second pregnancy. Even though I had gone through a full-term pregnancy before, our first baby died and this book really made me feel like the emotions and concerns I had during my second pregnancy were normal and like I was not alone. I will keep this and read it again if and when I become pregnant again, even though my second child lived. I was also grateful to have "Empty Cradle, Broken Heart" during this most recent pregnancy but also to have pregnancy "bible" - "What to Expect When You're Expecting..." but I made sure to get a new edition as sometimes I found it too emotionally difficult to read my old copy from my first pregnancy. (I was glad to see it had been updated in between my pregnancies.) Those three books made a world of difference to me.

One piece of advice, though. A few people had told me to wait and buy this book AFTER I became pregnant for the second time, apparently thinking it would be too difficult for me to have beforehand or that it might "jinx" my chances of becoming pregnant. I got it as soon as my husband and I decided to try again and I'm so glad I did. I actually wish I had purchased it even sooner as it has information on even deciding when and if to try again.

The Good Grief Club
$18.95
On January 17, 2009, I, too, heard the words, 'Your baby has no heartbeat'. I never thought the pain and anguish I felt could truly be put into words so that anyone would ever understand. But Monica has done just that. This book is very well written and, as someone who attends a SHARE group, it has been like having your 'group meeting' between actual meetings. Thank you for sharing your story, and the stories of your friends, with me and all those that read your book!

Life Touches Life: A Mother's Story of Stillbirth and Healing
$15.00
This is a reply I gave to a review made by Karas Mum, who found reading the nbook by Lorraine quite difficult to reads being newly bereaved, I had just reviewed this book as I have done many before and find this book to be very informative and spoke to me so much so that I have bought my own copy .. my journey and Lorraines seemed so in tandem, and I do intend to get in tuch with the author, I have included the other comment I made as I feel that I made some points in there.. but the name that Lorraine gave to Victoria her 'sweetlet' was tear jerking as was the whole book as the tears rolled from the first page brilliantly crafted straight from the heart ..Hi Karas Mommy, I have just reviewed Lorraines book for compassionate friends here in the UK as a stillbirth mother, although it is some years now since my son Thomas was 'born' asleep (1993) so I coul read this book, I accept that this may be a difficult book to read for those newly bereaved, I myself searched too for some spiritual guidance and some came from some unlikely and unexpected places, but I remember picking up some books and finding it so difficult to read and get past the first few pages, speaking to a bereaved parent took a lot of courage but to reach out was something I needed to do, but in real trepidation luckily the parent I spoke to (Christmas ~ Thomas was born 18th Dec) was very gentle and understandng and listened without giving me too much of his own history which is what I needed to do and there was no one around who wanted to listen finding it too painful to bear my pain, so I guess somehow we muddle through, don't quite know how, thosew who have to some extent walked in your shoes can empathise as those who have not find it so difficult thinking yu will be 'over it' in a matter of weeks, not the case, we are changed by the experience and there will be a before and an after .. somehow the expereince is integrated but not forgotten, every year I buy an ornament for the tree to commemorate his being, I also do some acts of charity motivated and prompted by him, but it has evolved. I could relate to Lorraine and nhave bought the book myself, perhaps a little further along the line you may be able to dip into it and relate to it to .. but we all have our own unique jour ney through the path of grief no right or wrong way. I remember some poetry seemed to speak to me and a couple fo books but not many and some made me feel worse .. I recall reading Victor Frankls 'Mans search for meaning' and finding pieces of that helpful .. also for me and one that 'fell' open in the library was the Phaedo by Plato and the argument for the existence for life before life ( argument for the existence of the soul) I would love to hear from you as I can think of a few titles, Iwould love to know more a about little Kara, a beautiful name .. sent with love Libby

Empty Arms: Coping After Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death
$12.95
This is the very first book I read following the loss of my son. I felt like Sherokee was sitting right beside me holding my hand telling me that I was not alone on this tragic journey! I read this book cover to cover, even through the tears! Sherokee's words gave me courage to put one foot in front of the other, and to not allow the grief to overwhelm me. Thank you for your word of wisdom Sherokee!