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How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together
$15.95
This is hands down the best relationship rescue/improvement book I've ever read. And I have read and own many. I have been just picking my way through it slowly, and applying different things. Changing my "stinking thinking" has made a world of difference. It is empowering to feel secure in ones choices, and we all have a choice in how we think, how we respond, and how we LOVE. Love is a verb, and we can DO differently to show our love to our spouse. Many times we will never solve the issues we are fighting about. And that is O.K.!! Trying to explain our points of view over and over, is exhuasting and self defeating...let go! My motto has become "what is more important, winning, or being in a happy marriage?"

And it's not about being a door mat either. Nor is it about a 50/50 balance in your marriage. It is more important that YOU feel balanced in giving to yourself, and to your mate, which in turn lets go of resentments. Don't expect him/her to take care of your needs, take care of your needs yourself, and free him from the responsibility of taking care of you.

I am a very analytical minded person, I love to dig and get to the bottom of issues. I feel so much less stressed out letting go of "having to know/understand" and just BEING.

This book is saving my marriage!

Bridging Separate Gender Worlds: Why Men and Women Clash and How Therapists Can Bring Them Together
$24.95
Florida Institute of Technology. Guide to dealing with the changing roles and expectations of the genders in therapeutic settings. Offers therapists in couples or marriage and family counseling gender-sensitive techniques and interventions.