Two Words, One Answer.
bitter divorce
 Steam $3.99 This movie is 3 short stories in one, with scenes from a steam room used as the story dividers. The first story regarding the older widowed woman is my favorite story of the 3. It is heartwarming, touching, and the only story which I could relate to. The second story involves a single divorced woman with no job, no self esteem, and a mentally abusive ex-husband. This story made no impact upon me as the actors/actresses were sloppy and their dialogue was juvenile. The third story involves a 20-something college student who is trying to break free from her parents as well as enter her first lesbian relationship. The actors who portrayed her parents were so awful, and their lines so scripted, that they were a joke. In every scene that the parents were in, I didn't listen to the dialogue because I was distracted by the dad's robotic voice. I originally was going to give the movie no stars, but decided to give 1 star because of Ruby Dee's performance.  Bitter Bonds: A Colonial Divorce Drama of the Seventeenth Century $68.95 In Times Literary Supplement's "Books of the Year" (2002), Felipeo Fernandez-Armesto writes: "Bitter Bonds is the most intriguing work of micro-history since The Return of Martin Guerre." In 17th-century Batavia, Cornelia van Nijenroode, the daughter of a geisha and a Dutch merchant in Japan, was known as "otemba" (meaning "untamable"), which made her a heroine to modern Japanese feminists. A wealthy widow and enterprising businesswoman who had married an unsuccessful Dutch lawyer for social reasons, she discovered that just after her wedding, she and her husband were at each other's throats. Cornelia insisted on maintaining independent power of disposal over her assets, but legally her husband had control over her possessions and refused to grant her permission to engage in commerce. He soon began using blackmail, smuggling, and secret accounts to channel her wealth back to the Dutch Republic. Cornelia fought back and tried to get a divorce. The struggle - complete with legal subterfuge, mutual recriminations, and even public brawls - would drag on for fifteen years and culminate in only a partial victory for Cornelia. "Melodramatic and ripe for Hollywood" - Suddeutsche Zeitung "Blusse's fine research has given us a fresh picture of a woman living between worlds and of the cultural and economic crosscurrents in the Pacific." - Natalie Zemon Davis, author of The Return of Martin Guerre  Bitter or Better: Your Choices After Divorce $12.95 Dr. Leporowski has written a slim but so useful book here that is bound to be of help to anyone dealing with the loss of a relationship. Her advice and suggestions are practical, thought provoking, and geared toward moving someone into the self-examination so necessary in order to move on into a new life following divorce. She takes special care to guide the reader through and past the traps of self-pity, blame, resentment and self-denigration without becoming critical or judgmental of those experiencing these all-too-common feelings when a marriage ends. I found her writing style to be refreshingly candid and almost conversational. Reading the book feels like sitting down with an old friend who is going to give you the "straight scoop" and not a lot of jargon or intellectual theorizing. She quite literally cuts to the "heart" of the matter! I've already started recommending this book to my psychotherapy patients facing divorce or its aftermath, encouraging them toward a more proactive self-examination and self-definition of who they are going to be NOW! |
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